This worksheet is meant to slow the conversation down. Start with the questions where one or both of you felt uncertain, defensive, or unseen. Try to understand before trying to solve.
Discussion Prompts
Work through these together
1. Which quiz questions exposed the biggest gap between us?
2. Where does my spouse most often feel unseen or misunderstood?
3. What do I wish my spouse understood about how I process stress?
4. What is one hidden expectation that needs to be said more clearly?
5. What does emotional acknowledgment look like in a way I can actually recognize?
6. When conflict rises, what helps me feel safer and what makes it worse?
7. What is one change I can make this week to communicate more clearly?
8. What is one change we can make as a couple to lower stress in the home?
9. What is one repair phrase we want to practice using?
10. What hope do we want to hold onto as we keep learning each other?
Use It Well
The goal is not to finish quickly. The goal is to understand more honestly.
Some of the best conversations will start slowly. If a question feels tender, that usually means it matters.